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“Two may talk together under the same roof for many years, yet never really meet; and two others at first speech are old friends.” – Mary Catherwood

“He doesn’t understand me.”

“We don’t get on like we used to.”

“I don’t know why we drifted apart after all those years.”

“We are family, yet we never really ‘connect’”

It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day hectic pace of living, and find ourselves lost in the shuffle. But it really doesn’t take long to reconnect. A ten minute walk in the park with a friend appreciating nature can refuel a person and remind them of what is important. A cup of coffee and a half hour “how are you, REALLY?” chat can repair months of misunderstandings.
A simple email saying, “I think we got off track.” can reunite old friends who have let the tangled thread of misunderstanding erode a good friendship.
These are very simple gestures that require a person to say, hey, what’s more important? Being right, or being connected to people that I care about? I have done this a lot in the last year, and have found that people are far more loving, forgiving and accepting than I imagined. I always expect rejection and judgment, and am pleasantly gifted with love and understanding. More often than not, I have let too much time pass before the light bulb went on, yet still, have been fortunate to re-establish connections that I once treasured and nurtured.
Very recently I was in contact with my Dad’s sister and brother-in-law. My aunt and uncle. We talked and laughed about old times. It brought back a piece of my Dad to me, hearing my Aunt’s stories and smiling about crazy experiences. I finally understood, at a deeper level, how important connections are. Not only do they unite people in the present, they re-establish memories of loved ones who are no longer here. Seven years had passed between seeing them this time. I promised myself that this lapse of time would not happen again.
Reconnecting. Intimacy. Sharing. Risks. All things that I learn through trial and error, and the grace, love and acceptance of those around me. I am beyond blessed.
How can you transform the relationships with yourself and others, by practicing simple ways of reconnecting? You will be rewarded for your efforts, way beyond what you ever expected.